Being too picky in dating

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You have a list longer than your arm of ‘requirements’ filled with things to make potential prospects jump through hoops and making it super easy for you to rule them out, where you get to tell yourself that it’s not your fault that the dating pool is such low quality and how you’re waiting for the ‘right’ guy.

You may come across quite exacting on dates and appear aloof and critical, and you may be saying stuff like ‘I can’t find a man who can cope with my success’. You ‘choose’ people that reflect what you believe about love, relationships, and yourself, and when you have negative ideas, you see and are attracted to people who ‘vibe’ with those beliefs.

Even though you never wanted to settle down to a quiet married life, perhaps you wonder now and then if you are going wrong somewhere.

Perhaps it lies in the huge checklist of must-haves that you consult before deciding to date anyone.

It’s a tale as old as time, by millennial standards. “Dating is a two way thing,” explains dating expert James Preece.

“Picky people will have a checklist of all the things they want in a partner and if they don't tick every box they give up,” Preece explains.

You’ll likely not even recognise a decent guy if he jumped up and bit you in the bum!

You overvalue the wrong things and undervalue the important stuff.

Not someone who makes you feel nervous, insecure, and ignored. Discover what they’re passionate about and what makes them come alive.

A partner with a steel core of integrity is more important than one with a Ph. What type of music and art moves them, and which of their travels made a lasting impression.

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